Life After A Breakup
You are aware of the actual hardship involved if you have ever gone through a challenging breakup. Even while the weeks (or possibly months, if it was a very terrible one) that follow can be difficult, there is always hope. You don't believe in me? Simply look around. Most people you meet have at least once felt the pain of sadness from a breakup. Since they succeeded in doing so, you are free to continue living your life. You'll not only feel better after surviving these brutally honest stages of life following a breakup, but you'll also be more robust.
Even if it all sounds nice, it's not very helpful while you're still acutely aware of your suffering. But knowing what to expect will enable you to gauge where you are in the grieving process and when you will be ready to recover. Even while every post-relationship experience is a little different and unfolds on its own timeline, there are common paths we all travel, so you don't have to go through this experience completely in the dark. Following a breakup, practically everyone goes through the following stages.
Here is a list of the various phases;
The Phase of the Black Hole
It's a hard moment right now. It happens right after the divorce when everything is dark and bleak. The "stay on the couch and shove foodstuffs into your foodstuffs hole and Netflix into your eyeholes" phase is what is referred to during this time. There will be a lot of crying and thinking of being alone with cats. Your thoughts are consumed with all the characteristics of your ex that you would miss as well as all the traits that render them the devil in human form. It's a difficult stage. Despite the fact that it could seem as though the suffering in the black hole will last forever, it won't. Be patient with yourself and give it some time. It's normal to feel sad.
The Phase of Friend Intervention
Your friends will ultimately grow weary of this black hole phase and step in, partly out of concern for your well-being and partially because they've always believed that your ex wasn't the perfect person for you and it's time for you to accept that. When they show up, they will frighten you off the couch and get you dressed in clean clothes, soap, and your old friends. It's time to go back outside and get some vitamin D.
Even though you really just want to go home and spend your entire day on the couch binge-watching Crazy Ex-Girlfriend which you didn't love the first time you tried to watch it but now realize is freakin' genius part of you is really grateful to your friends for getting you out of the house once more.
The Boredom Phase
You realize you'll make it through this when the ominous cloud eventually breaks apart. You won't fracture following this split. Although you are still depressed, you are still active and ready to start living again. You're also so bored, though. Days fly by just too quickly! Where did all these extra hours go? You begin to realize how much time being in a relationship by yourself took up. Even while being single offers much freedom and opportunity, being single for the first time can seem very uninteresting. So you enter.
The Phase of the New Normal
After all, you can't just sit around all the time. It is now time to establish a new habit for yourself and begin accomplishing everything you have been putting off. One skill that most people have is the ability to pass the time. You start worried that you never have time to relax, but before you realize it, your new habit has consumed all of your time. That is development, I suppose.
The Long-Term Grief and Recovery Phase
Actually, by continuing to be active, you felt much better. Effectiveness pays a reward! So perhaps it's time to proceed and take action to end the relationship in a positive way. The time has come to cancel all social media accounts and give your ex's things back. You're improving and getting better! When what started as a purge got out of hand, you didn't just block them; instead, you dug up their Instagram and followed those tags into ever-darker waters.
All of a sudden, the sofa's siren song beckons you to let out another good cry. Please feel free to enjoy it. Relapse is a natural aspect of healing. However, to keep it running the following time, just strike the block.
The Stage of Actually Moving On
Over time, these emotional relapses get shorter, milder, and best of all less frequent. They have been replaced with a sense of acceptance (and possibly even some enthusiasm) to go back outdoors and investigate the options. You are stronger than you could have ever thought, and you are now experiencing the sign you have been searching for. Congratulations you've successfully navigated the breakup tunnel!
Keep in mind that it's easy to lose hope following a difficult breakup when it feels like love has gone for good. But be patient and eat some ice cream. (And possibly a little bourbon).
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